While it can be complicated getting older, having access to the right information will empower you to navigate life’s ups and downs. Whether it’s coming to terms with a health diagnosis, navigating familial relationships, or staying safe in times of crisis, you’ll find resources here to help you understand and cope with even the most challenging of situations. You’ll also discover a range of services, organisations, and advocates you can turn to for help.
End of life
A 97-Year-Old Philosopher faces his own death
A digital story by Suitupe
Meet Ria from Hospice NZ
Thank you for everything
What does a hospice do?
In New Zealand hospice staff and their associated palliative care and volunteer teams are skilled at delivering end of life care. Hospice often provide inpatient services for respite, symptom and pain management, or support if their care cannot be provided elsewhere. At the end of life, some people may have...
What does it mean to have dignity at end of life?
End of life care is an important service in New Zealand. Reaching out early on for help allows care specialists to better understand your needs and respond suitably. When we or someone close to us is dying, we want to know this can be done peacefully, comfortably and with dignity....
What is a 'good death'?
As we age, the topic of death becomes more prevalent in our lives. We witness our friends and family members pass away, and we become more aware of our own mortality. While it may be a difficult topic to discuss, it's important to understand what it means to have a...
What is advance care planning
What is it like to die?
What is palliative care?
Palliative care is a specialist type of care that focuses on the person and their support networks. It takes a holistic approach, incorporating not just medical and nursing care but psychological, social and spiritual components too. Its aim is to provide comfort and dignity to people and their loved ones...
Coping with a parent's move into a care home. It's not easy.
You may have had concerns about your relative for some time. Or this situation you’re now facing may be totally unexpected. When the recommendation for residential care is made you may have mixed feelings. Perhaps you worry that you or the health professionals are being too hasty, or you feel...
How can we help mum settle into her new rest home?
Moving into an aged care facility requires a lot of major lifestyle adjustments. While everyone deals with change differently family members may be able to utilise the suggestions below to assist with this adjustment process. All mayor changes we make in life have some positive aspects and some less so....
Should my parent move to a care or rest home in another area
This is a question we often hear, and it comes in various guises. Should your relative move out of their rural area and come into town, or should they move from where they are, to be closer to you? Often the short answer is that its best to stay where...
The hard conversations e.g., I don’t think mum’s coping
It’s important to understand, in the first instance, that some people are happy to live the way they do. They may not have lived this way in the past, however some are happy to make a trade off with the standard of living they have now, with their ability to...
When mum moved into 'care' she lost her mojo. Can we help?
This is a very common response as it’s a big event and can be overwhelming. Moving to a new home, even in the best of times is well recognised as being a stressful event. Moving to a care home however often comes at a time when the person is feeling...
All in the mind
Dealing with bereavement
Losing a loved one is an undeniably tough thing to go through. Unfortunately, all of us at some point in our lives will go through a significant loss or other traumatic event. As Dr Lucy Hone, codirector at the New Zealand Institute of Wellbeing & Resilience, eloquently puts it: adversity...
Elder Abuse - John's story - Office for Seniors NZ
Elder abuse - Margaret's story - Office for Seniors NZ
Elder Abuse - Nick's story - Office for Seniors NZ
Elder Abuse - Terry and Sarah's story - Office for Seniors NZ
Elder Abuse Ngaire's story - Office for Seniors NZ
Finding the words: Older men - Beyond blue
Hospice NZ - We need to talk about dying
Death is a difficult subject to talk about for many people and for some cultures a taboo subject so we understand that you may come to this subject with mixed feelings. Hospice NZ have produced some videos that give you a glimpse into the subject. You can hear from those...
How the cat cafe is helping lonely older people - Age UK
How to Narrate Your Life Story - School of Life
I feel down quite a lot. Is this a normal part of ageing?
No, it’s not a normal part of ageing but it’s a common experience of ageing. Let us explain some more. Western tradition has tended to see our physical health as being separate to anything else in our lives. Increasingly though, we are all becoming aware that our physical, mental, emotional,...
I'm lonely. What can I do to feel better and less lonely?
It’s natural to look back over life and reflect. While our minds want to settle on more positive thoughts, it is all too easy to think about the things we have lost, done or not done, and things we now regret. Feeling lonely at these times is normal but dwelling...
My friend is withdrawn and depressed. What can I do?
If someone has talked to you and you or they are concerned about their emotional or mental wellbeing, take the situation seriously and advise the person to seek professional assistance. Offer to take them or accompany them to their first appointment. Most older people will talk to a doctor about...
Strategies for coping with grief
Everyone experiences grief differently and there is no right or wrong way to feel. While it can feel overwhelming at times, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Grief is often associated with losing a loved one (which is an incredibly tough thing to experience) yet loss can...
Talking is the way out: Older women - Beyond blue
Welcome to depression.org.nz
What is elder abuse?
What is elder abuse? I'm worried about what's going on at my friend's place. What can be done? We know it’s hard to ask for help, regardless of whether you’re the person being treated in this way, the person behaving in this way or someone who is concerned about a...
World Elder Abuse Awareness Day
World Elder Abuse Awareness Day The World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD) happens each year on June 15th. It was officially recognized by the United Nations General Assembly in its resolution 66/127 , December 2011, following a request by the International Network for the Prevention of Elder Abuse (INPEA), who...
30 lessons for loving, Karl Pillemer
70 people ages 5-75: Advice for someone younger than you?
A digital story by Rev Suamalie Naisali
Am I too old to make new friends?
Making friends and building social connections is possible at any age. There is a common myth people have more difficulty making friends as they age. However, this is not necessarily the case, and that older adults are just as capable of making new friends as younger people. In fact, a...
Free to be me
Friendship & Vulnerability
Honest communication - School of Life
How to be a good listener: School of Life.
How to have difficult conversations with loved ones
Ageing can come with it’s fair share of ups and downs. It’s always good to have family and friends around to assist you with thinking things through or helping to make important decisions – whether it’s where to live, financial or legal matters, or a choice about your health or...
How to Help Those We Love - School of Life
How to Remain Calm With People - The School of Life
I feel isolated and lonely – how can I build relationships?
It’s sad how often older people say they don’t want to be a burden or that they feel lonely or isolated. Often the person thinks there is little they can do about this. They may have built defensive walls around themselves or retreated from social settings so as not to...
Kids Meet a 101 Year Old - HiHo Kids
Make Mistakes - Abandon your 'Perfect Life'
My family want me to move rest homes - what should I do?
Families generally have the best of intentions when it comes to where you live – they want to be nearer to you so they can visit more regularly or be closer whenever you need help. However, what is best for your family may not be the best thing for you....
Nonnie, the 107-Year-Old Viral-Star Grandma, Has Some Advice
Staying social is key to living well as you age
As we age, it can be easy to become isolated and withdraw from social connections. However, research has shown that staying social and maintaining strong connections with family, friends, and the community is key to living well as we get older. Studies have shown that social isolation and loneliness are...
The School of Life videos
The School of Life says about themselves – we are “an organisation built to help us find calm, self-understanding, resilience and connection - especially during troubled times.” Founded by Alain de Botton (born in Switzerland and now living in London) The School of Life, is staffed by psychotherapists, artists, and...
What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger
When a relationship breaks down - housing options
When a relationship breaks down, it can be a difficult and emotional time for anyone involved. For older couples, the process of separating can be particularly complex, especially when it comes to issues such as housing and financial security. Where to live is often one of the first things to...
Wisdom - School of Life
Scams, safety, & emergencies
Home safety checklist
While making your home a safer place, make sure you also stay as fit an active as you can. If you have good strength and balance it's much easier to regain your footing if you trip. Outside Ensure that path surfaces and gradients are safe, clear and moss free. Steps...
Preparation for natural disasters
What with earthquakes, extreme weather, fire and floods, New Zealand can indeed seem like the Four Elements’ playground. It’s natural to fear what is in store next but planning and preparation can make a huge difference to how we cope when bad days come. Think about who you expect to...
Quick tips for making your home safer
Outside Ensure that path surfaces and gradients are safe, clear and moss free. Steps are easier to negotiate when walking than a ramp. Indicate or mark changes in levels. Is it easy to get the mail? Keep bushes and branches trimmed back from pathways and doorways. Use appropriate and assistive...
Tips on how to stay safe from scams - Consumer Protection NZ
Understanding romance scams - Netsafe CEO Martin Cocker gives the lowdown
What are good security measures when you live alone?
Being older and living alone has made me more security conscious. What are some good security measures? It’s reassuring to know that older people are less likely than other age groups to be the victims of violent crime. Nevertheless, many older people still feel vulnerable especially if they live alone....
What can I do to protect myself from being scammed?
Common sense and a healthy dose of scepticism can keep you safe from those who want to rip you off. If an offer seems too good to be true, it probably is. Being fearful of others can lead older people to isolate in their homes. Fear of being scammed can...