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When a relationship breaks down - housing options

When a relationship breaks down, it can be a difficult and emotional time for anyone involved. For older couples, the process of separating can be particularly complex, especially when it comes to issues such as housing and financial security. Where to live is often one of the first things to think about when a relationship ends, as it can have a significant impact on a person's wellbeing and quality of life. It is important for older people to be aware of the options available to them and to seek support and advice from relevant advocacy services to help them make informed decisions about their future.

Some housing options to consider include:

Private rental

While many older people own their own home, an increasing number now rent. Given New Zealand’s housing crisis just finding a home is the most pressing issue for many people. This urgency can leave people feeling vulnerable and with little choice. The law governing rental properties changed in 2020 and 2021 giving more security to tenants. To understand what it might mean for you see https://www.tenancy.govt.nz/law-changes/ New Healthy Homes Standards are also being applied from 2021-2024. If you do have some options for renting, try to make sure your landlord is someone you can have a good working relationship with. For market rental rates see: Tenancy services.

Supported living/boarding

These are often family/whānau style homes where residents are independent yet able to live harmoniously with others. Each resident has their own room/unit, with shared communal areas. Because of the supported nature of this housing option there may be help with some tasks, e.g. housework or meals. Board or a weekly rental usually applies. An example of such housing is an Abbeyfield home. Abbeyfield have carefully thought through their model making it a sought after option. It would be fair to say there aren’t enough Abbeyfields to go around. A few residential care facilities in New Zealand also provide supported living in houses adjacent to the home.

Public housing

Finding suitable and affordable public housing can be difficult. There are often shortages of houses and strict criteria around assets, income and need apply. Kāinga Ora is the government agency responsible for housing. Public housing may also be provided by your local council or religious/ welfare organisations such as RSA or Freemasons. Contact Age Concern for information about housing availability in your area.

There are some over-60s housing options on https://www.eldernet.co.nz/retirement-villages. Scroll down to Other Retirement / Over 60s Housing Options

Updated: 21 Apr 2023
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